The thing I'm really struggling to understand is how is it possible (if at all) to see which Lenny instances are connected to any specific lenny?
Its not just "Federated" or "Not federated" right? I'm looking for a Lenny which is an "A" IE connected to most if not all other instances. But it just seems like its hidden and you sort of have to figure it out by browsing the communities tab but even then its not clear.
It is possible to not like Barbie and be a decent person. But the way you're talking is exactly the kind of immature response being talked about here that would be a red flag for anyone in any situation and its hilarious.