Like girls so much you became one. That's a pro move right there.
The language around sexuality is imperfect at best. I wouldn't worry too hard about it though. Just do what feels right to you.
In regards to the USSR, it's probably the most complex example, but if you don't think there was plenty of pressure on Russia from the West that wasn't direct warfare (cold war as an incredibly basic example). Here's a fun video on reasons why it fell that isn't through a US centric lens
China is also complicated an I'm not going to speak to it.
But North Korea? You mean the country we absolutely turned to rubble through bombing campaigns to destroy ~85% of it's buildings, and then on top of it cutting them off from most of the rest of the world from trade? That's probably the most prime example of how we've trampled a country. Blowback has a deep dive into the history there and it's great.
And here's a holistic video in case you care to hear the exact argument broken down
If I try to grow some tomatoes, and by the time they're sprouting out of the ground, my neighbor tramples them and lights them on fire, does that mean that I can't ever grow tomatoes and they're doomed to fail?
It's hard to when any of those experiments have been met with bombs, embargoes, coups, and other fuckery
You do realize most of the other attempts at something else have been largely destroyed or stifled by the United States on behalf of capitalist interests right? Map for context
I mean, it was a thing far before that. Russia has been historically vilified in US culture, in many ways unfairly. Goes all the way back to red scare propaganda.
Probably just more pronounced lately given the trash fire of a war in Ukraine.