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DarbyDear DarbyDear @beehaw.org

He/Him, with a tendency to ramble on about any given topic.

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perfect/near perfect albums
  • For more mainstream music, I have to put forward "By the Way" by the Red Hot Chili Peppers and "Demon Days" by the Gorillaz. For a slightly deeper cut, "The Protomen" (a.k.a. "Act I") and "Act II: The Father of Death" by the Protomen. I usually jump through shuffled music or skip songs, but these albums are all ones that I can listen to straight through.

  • I'm really enjoying no down votes on Beehaw
  • I've mentioned my thoughts on this a few times now, but you've summed my opinions up nicely! I tend toward longer, overly-drawn-out comments and replies, so it was kind of pointless for me to comment on stuff on Reddit. It went entirely against what was promoted by the culture on Reddit, which developed as a result of turning comments into a popularity contest. If you didn't have a gimmick (ShittyMorph, poem_for_your_sprog, shittywatercolor, etc.) then you were basically stuck using jokes, references, and acerbic jabs to try to get attention (as evidenced by karma). Even downvote farmers fell into this pattern, they just did the opposite of what the typical person would do, which resulted in even more toxicity.

  • If we all cycled like the Dutch, CO2 emissions would drop by 690 million tonnes
  • Just wanted to chime in at the end here and say thanks for mentioning us. I literally live a 20-minute drive from the nearest grocery store, out in the country, so bikes aren't exactly practical like they were when I lived in denser areas. What I try to do (to try adding to the conversation) is accommodate where I'm able. I have an electric car (2018 Bolt) that I use as my daily driver (my pickup is strictly for situations that the Bolt can't handle), I'm setting up a homestead to help eat as locally as I can, and I eventually plan on getting solar and switching off of heating oil. However, even my situation isn't feasible for everyone - my income is higher than the median in my state and I have the land to accommodate a homestead, so the only thing that can be done from my perspective is try to implement policies and infrastructure where it'll have the biggest impact to help offset the impact of those that can't take advantage of it, and see if there are ways to help those who live in rural areas even if they can't be applied to urban areas.

  • What song is currently living rent free in your head?
  • Close Talker by Nelward

    He's got an interesting set of styles that I have trouble categorizing, but has grown on me ever since I found him a couple of years ago.

  • How are you dealing with all these new anti-trans/LGBTQ+ laws?
  • That's both frustrating and appalling. This is a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation, because I can't even remember how many times I've seen the sentiment that "oh the conservative states have made their bed, let them sleep in it" without regard for the members of the queer community who still live there. Sometimes, that's even followed up with "just move out" when those members are brought up, completely disregarding whether that's even possible on a financial or emotional level. Every situation is different, and there is no correct answer. The best we can do is support people who are making decisions in good faith, as long as those decisions don't harm others.

  • Trump Suggests He's Open to Taking Plea Deal With a Specific Condition
  • I know it's not what you meant, but I immediately thought of this guy with Trump hair

  • On Politics and Forking
  • I thought this might have been sarcasm, but looking at the stuff you've posted... Yikes. I feel completely comfortable saying that I think anyone who posts content that attempts to downplay North Korea's atrocities can be disregarded entirely. Just to be clear, this is not an invitation to discussion with you, but a warning to others who might see your comment.

  • please be measured in what you expect of us: a non-binding appeal from one of the people running the site
  • This exactly - Lemmy is meant to allow community managers to focus on that portion while the developers facilitate their work. Speaking as a developer, there's a very distinct difference in the skill sets needed for each field, and there should never be an expectation for one side to do work in the other - trust me, some of my past coworkers are last people you would want managing a community in any capacity. Why should it be different going the other direction?

  • please be measured in what you expect of us: a non-binding appeal from one of the people running the site
  • Thank you all for all of the work you've put in to make Beehaw the amazing place it is! For the record, that last line is the extent of my desires from the admins/mods here, as long as it's maintainable for y'all. I've hit burnout multiple times already throughout my life, so please listen to those of us who ask you to make sure you give yourselves time to decompress and not work on things - it's so incredibly easy to fall into a mindset where you feel compelled to keep going until you have nothing left (especially when you care deeply about your work), but it's not sustainable and it will cause you a wide variety of harm.

    I also appreciate you beginning work on placing boundaries and managing expectations. I know there are tons of folks making all kinds of requests under the assumption that since you're an admin, you make the software (since that's often how it works elsewhere), but those people are going to have to realize that the federated nature of Lemmy means that you have no responsibility for bug and feature development, just getting the software to run, establishing and cultivating the culture, and keeping the lights on.

    I wish I could devote time and energy to helping with bugs and feature requests, but my day job and the homestead that I'm working on getting set up with my wife take up more of those than I have available, to be entirely frank. Maybe when a couple of my bigger personal projects are done I can look at familiarizing myself with the codebase and contributing, but for now I will have to limit it to sending good vibes and supportive words wherever I can. You've all done a fantastic job setting up an honest-to-goodness community here, and I look forward to seeing it carry on! Don't grind yourselves down trying to fulfill every request and expectation brought up to you; you have supporters here who see and appreciate you, and there's only so much you can do.

  • Reddit CEO: We're Sticking With API Changes, Despite Subreddits Going Dark
  • Definitely! The big reason I decided to join Beehaw after taking a look at what instances were available is because the focus here seems to be building that feeling of community more so than just replacing Reddit, and I've already been feeling it in the best way. It's almost like a return to the days of forums where there were actual conversations happening, and I've actually slowly started recognizing names and avatars as I poke around in different topics. I'm not sure what things are going to look like further down the line, but hopefully it keeps developing in the way it has been! I do think it will, for what it's worth, since the admins and mods seem to be on the same page and dedicated to keeping the momentum going in that direction.

  • Reddit already looks different for me
  • Exactly, which is why it's so funny seeing people rant about their right to freedom of speech being infringed upon by private companies that don't want advertisers to abandon them because of hate speech on their platform. They assume it's because of some agenda being pushed, when the only concern they have is the effect on their bottom line.

  • Reddit CEO: We're Sticking With API Changes, Despite Subreddits Going Dark
  • Yeah, tapping into dopamine bursts to encourage activity is a great short-term solution, but I guess it was also foreshadowing into what Reddit would become. I'll take what I've seen here so far over the quick and easy hits any day; having a constant stream of bite-sized content to consume was wreaking havoc on my attention span and I didn't even realize it until I found myself having to stay focused on some of the longer conversations I've seen around Lemmy.

  • /r/Conservative is going to save Reddit
  • Honestly, having been around for the Voat exodus, that's pretty on-brand for the crowd that migrated there. It wasn't exactly the top minds that left because subs like /r/FatPeopleHate were banned.

  • /r/Conservative is going to save Reddit
  • Damn, I just looked it up and they shut down in 2020. Long story short, they went anti-woke, then went broke.

  • Reddit CEO: We're Sticking With API Changes, Despite Subreddits Going Dark
  • Yeah, I've noticed the same. I also don't really have the same feeling that replying in a post with a bunch of comments already on it is a waste of time - on Reddit, if a post had 100 comments on it then it was kind of pointless for me to add my voice because nobody would see it anyway. Here, I've actually gone through and responded to various comments and posts regardless. I think that's more of a "social norms/community culture" thing than a technological difference though. I mentioned my thoughts on what went wrong with Reddit elsewhere, but basically the way Reddit set things up led to the encouragement of low-effort popularity contest type replies so people would rush to get the highest-karma responses as quickly and easily as possible. There isn't an easy way to see someone's total score here though, so upvotes aren't really the focus and actual conversation can happen instead.

  • Reddit already looks different for me
  • As someone who registered under Beehaw (and thus, a potentially biased party), Beehaw isn't exactly looking to be a 1-to-1 replacement for Reddit from my understanding. It's more looking to create an actual community, similar to how online communities were once upon a time. I don't foresee pro-Russia sentiment taking hold there (especially since they apparently defederated with Lemmygrad, which is where a lot of tankies live), but I understand the concern.

    For what it's worth, the Socialism community is essentially a transplant of the subreddit /r/LeftWithoutEdge, which I would lurk from time to time while I was still on Reddit, and it was one of the few leftist subreddit where I didn't feel shunned for being a veteran. A lot of other leftist subreddits would do stuff like pre-emptively ban anyone who posted in a military subreddit, so I think Beehaw's Socialism community has a great foundation to work off of at the very least.

  • Reddit already looks different for me
  • This is exactly it. They don't want freedom of speech, they want freedom from the consequences of their speech. They don't like that the people affected by their speech have a voice too, and that the hateful rhetoric they spew into the world is finally being pushed back on. To the privileged, equality feels like oppression.

  • Reddit already looks different for me
  • It's unfortunate, but I think it's because in this specific instance, there is a clear and immediate impact on people's lives. Meanwhile, climate change is a gradual change over a longer period of time and a much larger area. Climate change also requires action beyond stopping visiting a website and actual cooperation among the entire human race. It's short-sighted, but it's also an example of how hard it is to get people to care about things that don't clearly and immediately affect them (see also: people who are militant homophobes until someone close to them comes out).

  • four new Beehaw communities (and a word on new community creations)
  • I really appreciate it. There's only so many times I could see people join to try to improve their lot in life only to get ground up and spit out, then betrayed by the people who made endless promises to them, before it made a permanent change in my worldview. Thankfully I realized that embracing the system that created these conditions is a fool's errand, but I do actually understand the hesitation to accept veterans when there are so many others that view the establishment as something other than a human rights violations factory that dangles the promise of a better life to take advantage of the downtrodden. There's plenty more I can say about this topic, but I'll cut it short here since this should be a place for celebrating the further development of our community, not to air political grievances.

  • four new Beehaw communities (and a word on new community creations)
  • I think that's one of the few leftist spaces on Reddit where I actually didn't feel like I was seen as scum just because I'm an Army veteran. A very (unfortunately) common sentiment in leftist spaces is that anybody that played any part in the military-industrial complex is beyond consideration and worthy of nothing but scorn, regardless of the fact that being in the military did more to push me left than anything else I can think of.