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A bisexual nonbinary poster of memes and other things • They/Any

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What's the point of 48-hour defederation threads?
  • Ok I can see how that could make a drama thread worse.

    Only other workaround I can think of is a setting up a second instance that only federates with blahaj.zone. But that wouldn't show up on the local feed and there may be federation quirks im not aware of.

  • What's the point of 48-hour defederation threads?
  • What about a bot that automatically removes post/comments and bans people from other instances from the community?

  • does the rule only apply when you go on the community page or also when you see a post from the community
  • Whenever you see a post. And remember when you post it shows you your post so you must post after you post.

  • Looking different
  • I've been stealing from Tumblr. Her account is here. I don't know if she has posted everything from Reddit there but her last post is from the beginning of November.

  • Decisions, Decisions
  • Most people I've seen using it as their personal pronoun would probably laugh if they were presented with an option for It with Cousin Itt representing it.

    I would probably add an option for "thing" with a disembodied hand as well.

  • Warlock Problems
  • From description of the Great Old One pact:

    The Great Old One might be unaware of your existence or entirely indifferent to you, but the secrets you have learned allow you to draw your magic from it

    Patrons can have whatever motivation or lack of motivation the DM wants. I personally like there being some kind of RPing effect. Maybe some task you have to complete, punishment for acting against your patron, slowly eroding sanity. But none of that is necessary.

  • It's what's for breakfast
  • In general, "The ovary is an organ in the female reproductive system that produces an ovum." But the relative bit, "It is also an endocrine gland because of the various hormones that it secretes."

  • It's what's for breakfast
  • In general, "The ovary is an organ in the female reproductive system that produces an ovum." But the relative bit, "It is also an endocrine gland because of the various hormones that it secretes."

  • Heat pumps can't take the cold? Nordics debunk the myth
  • They are just AC units in reverse. The biggest effect humidity is going to have is on how much condensation is going to form on the exterior radiator. That'll form frost that'll have to be melted in a defrosting cycle. That'll decrease performance and efficacy. Low humidity should keep that to a minimum.

  • Is it possible for E and T levels to be fine but get zero results due to issues in your endocrine sustem
  • From my understanding how a body responds to HRT is basically down to luck. Changes can be large, small, fast and slow. The chances of seeing large changes might decrease over time but is probably never zero.

    One thing to note is that we are often our worst critics. We see all the things that haven't changed or things changed so gradually that we never noticed. These changes can be obvious to those around us while we remain blind to them.

    The question I would ask is do you want to continue taking HRT? Is it causing you an undue burden or harm? Will stopping make you feel better? Will stopping make you feel worse? These are probably things to discuss with a doctor to help you come to a decision.

  • Any/Any%
  • In the actual video, yes.

  • The promised land rule
  • The fabled Blahaj cuddle pile.

  • "Real men"
  • I wouldn't go that far. You don't have to inject testosterone to be a REAL™ man. But it is probably safe to assume a subset of REAL™ men do.

  • rule of posting in small communities
  • Numbers going up does feel nice and a post not gaining any traction can be disappointing.

    Nice thing about Lemmy is it is so small that local and global new feeds are actually usable. Even new communities with no subscribers can get plenty of views from those alone.

  • All the other parts of speech
  • I would be tempted to tell her my adverb is fabulously.

    "I fabulously eat. I fabulously think. And I'm going to fabulously walk away from this conversation now."

  • The Truth
  • I find it amazing how well the different fediverse platforms interact with each other.

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  • That's exactly why it needs to be something you are willing to explain. It makes their stories better.

  • Why do people think Egg culture and Egging people is Okay? [TW:Homophobia, Misgendering]
  • It's very much not okay. In general, imposing labels on people is a bad thing. Doesn't matter how much better someone thinks they know, people get to explore their identities in their own way and at their own pace.

    When I see someone imposing the egg or trans label I generally point them to the egg prime directive here.

    When someone is just told they are trans, that opens ground for denial; it activates defense mechanisms built by internalized transphobia, and it has a high probability of pushing them further into the closet, if not making them outright transphobic. Even when it doesn’t, it leaves ground for their own subconscious to reject their dysphoria, claiming that they were just manipulated or deceived. The much more effective strategy is to talk about your own experiences with dysphoria so that they see the common grounds and come to their own conclusion about their gender. The code doesn’t forbid helping them to explore their gender; it forbids assigning a gender to them. Or, to put it more succinctly, you cannot be told what the Matrix is; you can only be shown.

    As to why some people don't follow that. Either they don't know better, in which case educating them should fix it, or they are simply [epithet of your choice here]. Any community of sufficient size will have bad actors in it.

  • What are the staple femboy accessories/equipment?
  • Skirts can be hard at times. They come in all kind of lengths. The major ones are mini, above knee; midi, below knee; and maxi, ankle length. And to make things harder, they aren't always consistent even within a brand. I don't know what skirts you've tried but I like the midi length the most.

    I don't consider myself a femboy, trans-androgynous might be the best label at the moment, so I don't know how well my styles will overlap but here are some things.

    I haven't done any super short shorts but I loved shorts like these over the summer.

    V-neck shirts can be very flexible. They aren't strongly gendered on their own and can easily flex back and forth. I got this one recently.

  • What are the staple femboy accessories/equipment?
  • I think the classic is skirt and crop top

    Elbow length gloves

    Oversized hoodies

    Short shorts

    Feminine/androgynous shoes and boots

    I think it's going to particularly depend on what you want to do. A single cheap outfit? Then probably just a socks, skirt, and a top. Fill out a wardrobe? Head over to the women's section at a thrift store and grab some cute things.