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Men in their 40s, what’s one piece of advice for men in their 20s?
  • Start saving for retirement now. You can make literally millions by putting away 10% of your income early on. Do it automatically so you never even notice the money gone.

    If you are worried about making the wrong choice and your company doesn’t have a 401k, open an IRA somewhere (Fidelity if you need someone to make the decision for you) and pick a date targeted fund. Set up auto deposit. Never look at the balance.

    You can always make it better later but for now the best thing to do is start. Don’t let analysis paralysis get in the way.

  • Flipboard Brings Local News to the Fediverse
  • Mastodon is adding a feature that will tag links with Fediverse ids. So if I post an article link, and the news site has the special meta tag, the. The journalist’s Fediverse is will be linked below the article’s embed in my post.

    This is probably an effort to help journalists find their audience on independent social media, which would help the whole ecosystem.

  • Can you tell me if this a sane business/side gig idea? "baby sitting" as a 30 yo man.
  • I’m not dropping my kids off at a stranger’s house, and to be a bit sexist here a single man’s house, and paying him to let my kids swim at his pool, drive go karts on open pavement, and play store-bought laser tag.

    An insured fun center with employees? Sure, maybe. Some guy’s home? Absolutely not.

    I also am not putting my kids in an Uber alone.

    If you want to be Johnny Karate, figure out something you can bring to birthday parties or kids events and make your money that way. But “unlicensed daycare” is a hard no.

  • "30 minutes or it's free" back then was wild
  • They generally asked for your cross streets, then looked at the giant street map on the wall to figure out where you were. Not exactly an unsolvable problem.

    Edit: and it’s not like they needed turn by turn directions. Just figure out where to go from the cross streets. Oh it’s northwest of Maple and Cyan, 3 streets into the neighborhood. The drivers can get to the crossroads on their own, that’s just local knowledge.

  • ‘It affects everything’: why is Hollywood so scared to tackle the climate crisis?
  • Famine and climate refugees lead to authoritarian governments. Or, just have it in the backdrop like a comedy about a heatwave in March where people are sweltering and it turns into a meetcute.

    Or just the super fucked up first chapter of Ministry for the Future.

  • I genuinely feel like I wouldn't live that differently even if I suddenly became ultra-wealthy. Am I kidding myself?
  • One of those guides to “what to do if you win the lottery” says to, up front, decide how much and who you want to fund. Want to buy all your friends and family houses and college tuition? Sure.

    But the thing is that money can make people go crazy. Some people will always want more. Sure you got them a house, but you’re rich, why can’t you get them a car too? And now they’re a little behind on bills, surely you can help them out, right? And it never stops. Not everyone, but someone.

    You might be interested in this podcast episode that touches on the subject: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/between-two-worlds/

  • I genuinely feel like I wouldn't live that differently even if I suddenly became ultra-wealthy. Am I kidding myself?
  • You are suddenly super rich. Now all your friends and family expect you to provide for them. Every kindness they offer is suspect, are they doing it because they like you or because they want your money? How can you really know?

    You don’t have to work and can go anywhere in the world. But your friends still have jobs, so you travel alone.

    Some of your friends start to resent your new lifestyle. Others may just be staying quiet. You read about “crabs in a bucket” and distance yourself more from them.

    It’s really isolating, but you meet some other wealthy people and you know they don’t need your money. And… you actually have some stuff in common with them. Yes Ibiza is overrated, but they suggest another place to check out. You go out with them to amazing restaurants that your old friends wouldn’t even appreciate. You can commiserate about how hard it is to get good help these days.

    On top of all that, you slowly start to notice an emptiness inside. You should be happy! You don’t have to work anymore! You have everything you could ever want! Why do you feel this way!?!? Drugs and expensive purchases fill the need momentarily. If try telling your old friends that you’re not all that fulfilled, they’ll pull out the world’s tiniest violin for you. You lack purpose and goals, and feel like you are drifting in a life of luxury completely devoid of meaning.

    If you’re lucky you find a way to have a new purpose in life and accept that the money changed you. If not you spiral and, best case scenario, wind up broke.

  • Parents, how do you manage summer breaks, who takes care of your children when there is no school?
  • In my town, most of the summer camps fill up in March. Every dual-income family I know has a spreadsheet and keeps track of exactly when online registration opens. It’s a nightmare, and expensive too.

    Mine are starting to get old enough that we are doing a mix of camps and WFH weeks. It’s not ideal but we’ve scraped enough together that it mostly works.

  • Patriarchy According to The Barbie Movie

    archive.org Patriarchy According To The Barbie Movie : Jonathan McIntosh : Free Download, Borrow, and Streaming : Internet Archive

    This video essay uses the Barbie Movie as a primer to help explain what patriarchy actually is, what it isn't, and how it ends up harming everyone, including...

    Patriarchy According To The Barbie Movie : Jonathan McIntosh : Free Download, Borrow, and Streaming : Internet Archive

    I’m kind of amazed that this is getting downvotes after 20 minutes, even though the video is 33 minutes. I guess you already saw this?

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    NYT Opinion | Why Aren’t More People Marrying? Ask Women What Dating Is Like. (Gift Link)

    www.nytimes.com Opinion | Why Aren’t More People Marrying? Ask Women What Dating Is Like.

    Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

    Opinion | Why Aren’t More People Marrying? Ask Women What Dating Is Like.

    This is a tough piece, one that I share without fully endorsing. It lays out the problems that women experience with some men, like that men are not getting college degrees at the same rate as women or the lack of emotional modelling provided to boys and young men:

    > For a variety of reasons — mixed messages from the broader culture about toughness and vulnerability, the activity-oriented nature of male friendships — it seems that by the time men begin dating, they are relatively “limited in their ability and willingness to be fully emotionally present and available,” he said.

    Where I think it stops short is in thinking about the root causes of those things, and how supporting men can bring them into the feminist tent.

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    When do we expect PS5 Slim to drop?

    I know USA should be getting them sometime in November, any idea when though?

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    ADHD has real health effects

    > Compared to other killers from a public health standpoint, ADHD is bad. Smoking, for example, reduces life expectancy by 2.4 years, and if you smoke more than 20 cigarettes a day you're down about 6.5 years. For diabetes and obesity it's a couple of years. For elevated blood cholesterol, it's 9 months. ADHD is worse than the top 5 killers in the U.S. combined. > > Having ADHD costs a person nearly thirteen years of life, on average. Barkley adds, And that's on top of all the findings of a greater risk for accidental injury and suicide....About two-thirds of people with ADHD have a life expectancy reduced by up to 21 years.

    This is from Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey in their book ADHD 2.0

    Here is some more background on the research

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    www.cbsnews.com Michigan ends marijuana testing for most state jobs

    This change means regulations will look at recreational marijuana use much like alcohol use and won't test for it in new hires.

    Michigan ends marijuana testing for most state jobs

    cross-posted from [email protected]: https://lemmy.world/post/1938153

    > Recreational marijuana has been legal in Michigan since late 2018, but in the years since people looking to work for the state of Michigan were still subject to marijuana testing. But that changed this week in a unanimous vote from the Michigan Civil Service Commission. > > This change means regulations will look at recreational marijuana use much like alcohol use and won't test for it in new hires.

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    Michigan Trees @lemmy.world BeefPiano @lemmy.world
    www.cbsnews.com Michigan ends marijuana testing for most state jobs

    This change means regulations will look at recreational marijuana use much like alcohol use and won't test for it in new hires.

    Michigan ends marijuana testing for most state jobs

    Recreational marijuana has been legal in Michigan since late 2018, but in the years since people looking to work for the state of Michigan were still subject to marijuana testing. But that changed this week in a unanimous vote from the Michigan Civil Service Commission.

    This change means regulations will look at recreational marijuana use much like alcohol use and won't test for it in new hires.

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