Too many users here prefer smaller communities and have openly stated they aren't interested in making accommodations to pursue growth to a truly large platform, even if it could be.
Lemmy is the sort of site that will linger in the background and quietly die out, it'll occassionally be mentioned in the same sorts of conversation that bring up old alternatives like voat, rare conversations with few readers.
I had some optimism at the growth spurt, but seeing what the opinions of users here were, that hope turned into cynicism. As I forgot about Lemmy, it's irrelevance was reinforced. It would be best, I think, if this foundation could replace its competitors. But I don't think it's going to happen.
I don't think you want common idiots to like the site.
If you think you can make a better lemmy instance than anyone else, just start one up. It's free and open source, and there's good tutorials out there.
Since it seems that you're convinced that with your ideas you can create massive communities, you should surely be able to become the largest Lemmy instance out there.
You keep saying lemmy is a site. It's just an implementation of a protocol. There are many Lemmys in 'Lemmy'
Also, no one's stopping any community from growing. If they were to grow, the people you mention will just make new smaller communities, just like the same kinds of people did on Reddit.
After Sync for Lemmy, I feel like Reddit continued under a new name.
Opens Lemmy to post about how they don't use Lemmy. "I don't think you want common idiots to like the site."...uhhhh yeah. Why would we want checks notes more idiots?
Having seen every other forum I've ever used turn to shit because of Eternal September long before corporate Enshittification, I don't really give a damn about having a massive userbase. The more users, the more dipshits. The more dipshits, the less conversation and quality in posts.