Should I explain my bf in details what I like? Need help!!

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The original was posted on /r/sex by /u/porkchops29 on 2023-06-27 15:46:20+00:00.

We are 22F and 23M in a relationship for 4 years (mostly LDR but currently meeting 1-2 times a month). This is both of our first relationship and we are extremely attracted to each other and in love. We love spending time with each other. We both are more into intimacy and making love than just having sex for the sake of it like it happens with hookup folks… we both take turns to make sure each of us are enjoying the experience and pleased adequately (i.e., we both put efforts so it’s not like he doesn’t care about my pleasure or what I like).

But like I said, it’s our first relationship and he was not into sexy stuff before this. He had never had make out sessions or sex before meeting me, so doesn’t really know exactly what women likes… this leads me to the actual part…

I’m more into intimacy, long makeout/caressing sessions before we get into all the foreplay/hands stuff. Physical touch is my love language and i like being caressed, held, pulled closer, kissed, all of that romantic cheesy stuff before making out. I like being touched on the back, waist, arm, thighs, basically any kind of non-sexual skin touch that makes me feel wanted.. which overall makes the experience more intense or loving for me.

And he doesn’t know so much in details about what I would like better. But he does a pretty good job overall and I do love the experience… except for he doesn’t usually start with long caressing time. He goes straight into hands and touchy stuff. And I think it’s important for me to have a buildup first.

So should Iexplain these tiny details to him so that the experience is better for the both of us? Girls, have you done it before with your long-term bf? Boys, would you be up for this conversation with your gf about what she likes or would it make you feel inadequate or something?