Packaging LPDDR smartphone-style like Apple does makes the traces much shorter, which lets the RAM be faster and lower power. DDR5-5600 DIMMs in "regular" laptops are literally electrically maxed out, and power hogs because they run at crazy voltages for the speed. I would think that much voltage would degrade the CPU too.
There’s not much room in the Mac Mini for additional LPCAMM modules, or the MacBook Air.
The SSDs Apple use lack a controller (that’s built into the M series SoC). That drives down Apple’s cost of materials but surely it wouldn’t be that hard to support a standard NVMe M.2 interface?
There's also CUDIMM which one manufacturer is tauting that they'll be releasing a 10000 MT/s soon after having dropped a 9000 model a couple months ago