DAE struggle with the identity of being on the spectrum?

For more than two decades I grew up "normal." By those standards, I have been very lazy and weird. I grew very depressed. It was not quick or easy, but I integrated my diagnosis with my personal history and it fits very well. Presently, it is much easier for me now to be kind to myself. I can seek accommodations without feeling like an imposter. I think it's great that you reached out about this topic. I hope you find what you need.

No. Just because you've been asigned a label for some behavior doesn't mean it goes away or that anything has changed. You're just more aware and are equipped with information to help you navigate through life more efficiently. However, what medication does to you is entirely different, as it is also very subjective.