The biggest thing that helped me was to just accept that my brain is like this and not beat myself up about it. When I learned that executive disfunction was a thing with a name that lots of ppl have, and not just me being a lazy and useless moral failure, like it helped me immediately bc stress and anxiety and self loathing turned into a feedback loop that made my executive dysfunction worse. Being mean to myself never made me functional, it just made me miserable. Now I'm like, "well, I just can't do that right now and that's okay. Maybe I'll even ask someone for help doing this task. Maybe I'll just find zen in laying here."