Agreed. I always felt like I had to add five different disclaimers to my comments to avoid bad faith arguments and angry responses. Wasn’t a fun experience at all and often lead to me just deleting comments.
I may have been a little... overzealous when I wrote my beehaw application but I echo this point when I submitted
My last comment on reddit was 6 years ago. I was afraid of what it and the internet at large was becoming. Afraid to be a human online because the trolls and the dox and the swats. The mission statements in the side bar, the long and insightful posts that hope to bridge new people to the culture of beehaw that speak of being nice and compassionate, of working together to build a community of varied interests and peoples let me dare to dream that there exists a place where I can be a human on the internet again.
It's going to take a lot of deconditioning to not be a lurker!