Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can?
Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can?
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Perhaps they value different things in life. Everyone is not the same, what works for you won't work for everyone. There are people who enjoy having responsibility. Having children, being a manager and doing charity work feels fulfilling to them.
Until they say they are over their head and start complaining they have no free time in a very negative tone to all of their childless/non managerial friends and guilt tripping on how they should do the same. “When are you having kids?”
Do childless, non-managerial people have no complaints in life? Most things aren't perfect. It doesn't mean they're not also fulfilling.
On the other hand, some people just like to complain. The comment you're making just lacks some nuance.
You should talk.
You shouldn't
I know these types. There's nothing stopping them from having the kids babysat or to take a day off, but they'd rather be able to hit people over the head with the victim complex even though they put themselves into their position knowingly and without hesitation.
Half the people I work with have kids and, if you complain about anything at all around them, they always have some way to minimize it and one up you. Got three hours of sleep? Well, with their kids, they only sleep 30 minutes a night on a bed of nails under a running stream of volcanic temp water. Starving because work is crazy, you haven't eaten all day, and it's 7pm? With their kids busy schedules, they only eat once a fortnight, on the toilet, crying into they're meal which only consists of bread crusts their kids didn't want. Like, sorry, I forgot I'm not allowed to suffer around you people because you made a life decision that requires extra effort on a daily basis.