Is it normal that I feel pretty bad for ignoring homeless people begging for help? How do others ignore them without feeling bad?
Is it normal that I feel pretty bad for ignoring homeless people begging for help? How do others ignore them without feeling bad?
I want to give them money but since my childhood my parents pretty much told me that they are all either faking it or are too lazy to go to work for money. I mean, I guess they can go to work but not everyone gets accepted to work as easy as it sounds like.
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That is why soliciting / begging for money works. It makes people uncomfortable and they give money. It wouldn't work if we all didn't feel that.
Oh yeah, those damn cunning homeless people, there to make you uncomfortable with their suffering.. (in case it isn't clear - heavy sarcasm, your attitude is disgusting)
There wasn't any judgement implied there. It literally works because people have empathy, you know, that thing that makes you not immediately assume everyone else has the absolute worst intentions.
Well, I was merely stating a fact.
It all depends how that plays out. Empathy is a good thing. It's why were not sociopaths and our species died a long time ago. It can also be exploited by people. I mean there are organized gangs sending out people to beg for money on the streets. Especially around christmas time. I wouldn't give them any money but I have donated to proper people in need.
I don't really like it if people play with empathy. For example showing starving african children is something that works and non-profits do it to get people's attention. Nonetheless it reinforces stereotypes and leads to a spiral of more and more graphic images being needed. It's a complicated topic. This year I looked for a non-profit who doesn't do this, lets people have their dignity and also spend less of the donations for their own corporation and more for the actual projects.
I believe also with homeless people it's more complicated than one of the extremes. Some just pretend to be homeless. Some really are. And really in need. Some will waste your money for alcohol and some need a warm sleeping bag to get through the night. There is probably more than meets the eye. And it's always difficult to tell.
But I get your interjection. Some people actually have that attitude. They really think the homeless people should be kept out of sight so they themselves don't have to feel uncomfortable. That's disgusting.
(Edit: Something I think works somewhat alright is charities who give out food on the street, warm clothes and sleeping bags. Maybe this is unlikely to get abused and you can donate to them without worrying too much.)
I believe also with homeless people it’s more complicated than one of the extremes. Some just pretend to be homeless. Some really are. And really in need. Some will waste your money for alcohol and some need a warm sleeping bag to get through the night. There is probably more than meets the eye. And it’s always difficult to tell.
Nobody who is doing well is sitting outside in December begging for change. It's dehumanising. If someone is down on their luck and wants a beer to get through then it's not a waste.
Personally we have some good homeless charities around here so I tend to report them using an app which brings out volunteers to help them get supplies, a hostel, and benefits which is more money than I can spare, but if I have food or drink (including sometimes alcohol) going I usually donate that too.
It's important to put yourself in their shoes.
I don't know how it is where you people all live. In big european cities it has happened that criminal networks force people to beg on the street. You're probably right that they are not well. Sometimes this involves human trafficking. But they're not the usual homeless people. The gangs will "recruit" for example amputees and people that get sympathy. The money usually doesn't stay with those people. It's organized crime and the money is taken from them. You ocassionally/rarely see dubious people when you visit a christmas market. Police cracks down on things like this but you can google a good amount of news articles on this.
However there are homeless people. And it'd be a shame if we stopped helping them because of this. But you also don't want to support criminals.
And I don't think it's the same in the US anyways. Social security, healthcare and everything is very different. So is what kind of organized crime we have around us.
If people are being human trafficked they're not doing well.
This idea that all homeless people are fronts for gangs however is a right wing idea that rarely or never plays out. A gang can make money drug dealing, stealing cars, even petty theft, all are going to pay much higher amounts than sitting in the train station begging for change.
I'm completely with you on that. Criminals are also known for doing pickpocketing on christmas markets. All of that isn't that big a problem where I live and this hasn't happened to me, yet. But I know people. I think it's obvious that seasonally crowded places are bound to attract some criminals. And all of that doesn't really have to do anything with homeless people. But I will gladly rethink the stereotypes I heard and think about where I got that from. Sounds like something right-wing people would love to regurgitate.
Chill dude. You've made a lot of good points, throughout the thread, and I agree with you completely, but you're being an asshole. Nobody will pay you any attention when you insult them.