Wear pink but don’t cry - "Men under 25 are less likely than their elders to feel comfortable hugging another man or weeping in front of them. What happened?"
Wear pink but don’t cry - "Men under 25 are less likely than their elders to feel comfortable hugging another man or weeping in front of them. What happened?"
What does “being a man” mean today? “As little as possible,” shrugs Ami Rubiés, 18, from Cambridgeshire, who does not find the term useful. “I guess I see the whole concept as sort of redundant.”His friend Rae Baxter, who is about to leave for freshers week at the University of Liverpool, has a much
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For me this is the crux of the issue:
To Galloway, neither the left nor the right — which can seem compelling to rudderless young men — are providing a genuine alternative. “The far right conflate masculinity with cruelty,” he says, referencing Tate and Vladimir Putin. “The far left thinks that men should, quite frankly, act more like women. Neither of those is productive.”
Men, especially young men, today are stuck in a no man's land where they know that the toxicity of the past is not what's socially acceptable, but no one's giving them a model of what they can be. They are collateral damage of the culture wars.
Andrew Tate (just writing that name feels dirty) and his clique are exploiting this to cultivate hate and toxicity, but the traditional feminist approach that "Men should get in touch with their feminine side" will leave them isolated socially from their peers and emotionally.
The middle road will not be feminine and won't be the traditional masculine role that's still very present in culture, but will be a place where men can confidently own their vulnerability.
Edit: spelling
The conclusion sums it up very well: men are out of the old men box, but there's no model for them for the men of the new world, which leave them helpless yet more conscious than ever about their body and the questions of masculinity.
The far left thinks that men should, quite frankly, act more like women.
I dont really see that in my life, maybe because most far left spaces I visit try to reject gender roles, especially those that are used by youths and young adults. What I notice more is the lack of community building or organizing around being masculine / a man, while I feel so many other groups/identities are constantly building connection based on their shared experience.
I would be interested if thats something others also experience.
"The middle road will not be feminine..."
It will include aspects of it though. It has been defining masculinity in opposition to femininity for all these years which has allowed a toxic aspect to develop within male dominated groups over time.