Its wonderful to be on lemmy, and so far it seems like the community is super welcoming.
I do have a silly question though,
When i search for a community, i get tons of results from different servers. and it seems like i can comment on posts and interact with them. This is, until I subscribe; It seems like I can subscribe easily, without friction in lemmy.world and beehaw. However, when I subscribe to lemmy.ml, it just says subscribe pending, and im not sure why.
I feel like im missing something fundemental here.
If I were to guess, I'd guess that lemmy.ml is falling apart under the load of new and increasingly active users. You can try:
Wait 5 minutes to see if it sorts itself out. If lemmy.ml is slow to respond to your subscription request this can happen. And it has good reason to be slow right now with the massive influx of users.
If it doesn't self-sort, click the pending button to unsub, and try resubscribing. It may take right away on retry. I had to do this with a bunch of subscriptions early on.
Find a few more communities on servers that aren't yet having an existential meltdown under load to tide you over until admins are able to scale up to demand.