It does, but I'll take that in exchange for knowing I'm reducing the harm I cause
post by punkgender:
"one of the worst things about becoming educated on social issues is when people are like 'you used to have a sense of humor'
no i used to have internalized prejudices which i've worked really hard to overcome and i realize now that your jokes are shitty"
ccushty replies:
"Always reblog this because becoming more socially aware makes you dislike a lot of people"
In this house we don't tolerate intolerance, since history shows that sadly love does not in fact, win. Not against systems like capitalism or white supremacy or patriarchy.
If the love in question takes the form of enabling, then you're absolutely right. And laughing with or even quietly tolerating racist jokes is plainly enabling behavior.
The only reason that comes to mind is collective action/organizing. If you can find common ground in a social, economic, or political issue with another group, can align yourself with that group only in regards to that issue, and can in that way make progress on that issue... then do it.
You don't need to agree with people you're organizing with on anything but the thing you're organizing about.
That said, if I found myself agreeing with a proud bigot on anything at all, my first step would be a thorough recheck of my stance, its implications, and how I came to it in the first place.
Because it's a lot easier to educate people you get along with than to antagonize them and hope that they spontaneously come around to a point of view that you just made them associate with being rude. The association doesn't have to be true to be harmful, as is proven by the fact that they were already bigots to begin with.