How do you know if you truly love someone as a mother?
How do you know if you truly love someone as a mother?
This might sound pretentious or trippy. But it's just a thing I haven't found a proper answer for.
My paternal parts of the family are all dead, no aunts, uncles or cousins alive any longer. My maternal parts of the family suck, they seriously suck, no joke. I decided not to procreate (and had a "few discretions" regarding this) because I didn't want to pass the shitty genes, behaviour or guilt onto another generation.
I have an ex, some relations ago. And I really loved his mother, as a mother. I was a train wreck at one time, and she saved me and took care of me. I don't care that she isn't my real mother. But this was several years ago.
What really hurts is that my siblings and cousins tell me that what I felt for her was fake, as she is not a blood relative. As I have helped her more than I would ever have helped anyone else. I love her, but is it true love to love someone as a mother if they aren't your biological mother?
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This brings to mind the saying: " The blood of the covenant is stronger than the water of the womb." Which means the relationships you CHOOSE are often stronger than the ones you're born into. If your found family supports and loves you but your biological family doesn't, then your true family is your found/chosen family. You don't need to associate with people who mistreat you.
It's funny how often this adage is misused. But yeah, this is right! What Mack said.
Was skimming the thread to see if someone had already said this.