My self hosted instance works in every way for federation, the test curl commands return JSON, I can comment and invite on another federation, and I can retrieve comments and posts by search.
My current problem is my instance does not appear to get updates from other servers when new comments are made. Is there any other troubleshooting or recommended configuration changes I should do?
For context, I am hosting my instance through kurbenetes using nginx-ingress.
I've seen this if you don't have the specific nginx rules set up on the ingress. Check this out and see if it solves your problem: https://lemmy.kutara.io/comment/700
Thanks for the link. I recently did something similar, this fixed my federation issue allowing me to post / comment / upvote. I am wondering now if there is an issue with the proxy config that prevents subscriptions from going through.
I am subscribing but they all show pending subscription, which I read doesn't matter usually but a first time setup private instance I was thinking that it might.
Yes, it does matter. Unfortunately you will have to try canceling (just tap or click the pending button) and subbing several times until you get lucky and it finally works.
This is sort of a catch 22, because the issue is caused by the server being under load (and some bad code or database queries likely needing to be fixed / optimized / refactored), and clicking the buttons is adding to that load, contributing to the problem.
TL;DR pending subscriptions are not subbed, so do not federate.
I got content updating now. I had to add a nginx deployment with the standard nginx.conf loaded through a config map then used nginx-ingress to proxy the proxy container so that it would be live. Comments and posts are not syncing yet, but I think that may just need some time for the instances to sort themselves out with my instance. I'll update if I can get comment / posting working or not.