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“Gendered holidays”?
Is Christmas female now?
I mean like this one: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Women's_Day
It boils down to "one part of the binary celebrates another part of the binary". You probably can see how it's a problem for a closeted trans person.
If it helps at all, where I'm at, it's known as 'day of the feminist fight'. And it's about commemorating the wins that feminism has already had but also marching and being angry at all the gender based discrimination that still exists. I as an nb personally love it. I know you won't be able to change how the day is viewed around you and how you're supposed to act on it, but maybe mentally you can see it as a feminist fighting day? Idk if that helps
I respect the holiday's premise and honestly would love it but this is one of the national holidays and as such people are SO intense about it.
And I have never really seen anyone actually seeing feminism and liberation in this holiday. Hell, it's the opposite, with all the stereotypes and misogyny!
But not all holidays are like this... there's another one that literally celebrates men as 'future soldiers'. I hate it so fucking much!
Eww yeah that's absolutely disgusting. You'd think we're in the 21st century now. I wish I could help you make it through this agony.
Okay that makes sense.
Thanks!
Thanks to the first Deadpool movie, that holiday makes me think of pegging 😅
i do see the historic need for it though, in a patriarchal society, where non cis men are disempowered and objectified.
i hope with feminism de we will more and more move away from gender being socially relevant
Of course, I don't argue against that. I just wish people would be less intrusive with these holidays. Celebrations should be opt-in, not
opt-outenforced on every work and study place!Also, Wikipedia article describes a lot of cool stuff... that just isn't really relevant to how it's perceived here, in my experience. I have NEVER in my life seen anyone treating 8th March as even remotely connected to feminism. People just see it as the day when you bring flowers to cis women and tell them how beautiful they are and stuff.
For me all the "female" stuff is just FINTA stuff instead. Easy fix and conservatives don't really know what FINTA means so they don't care and I can celebrate alternative gender identities in peace.
It doesn't matter how I see the holiday when in the end I will feel rejected because barely anyone knows and accepts my identity IRL.
As far as I'm concerned, every day is a feminism day.
Yea thats tough. I found myself in the same situation 1-2 years ago. I just moved to a different city when I finished highschool. This might not be feasible for your you unfortunately. Even my closest friends in my hometown whom I've known for almost 10 years now don't know. But I found support in local queer community in my new city. It might feel weird at first but it really helps. If you can find a group then reach out.