Lemmy has made me hate people more than any other social media platform.
Truly a pretty terrible place for any kind of social activity.
People here are super self righteous and unwavering in their beliefs, quick to insult others and be generally bitchy, pedantic and quick to dogpile. Worst of all while still usually slightly wrong about a thing, but unwilling to hear it.
It's basically the worst parts of reddit users where we have boiled it down to the most affluent or socially insecure.
Even if it's as simple as a question people jump to defend their position with insults rather than answer it cause they get worried the person might be confused and it's best to just make sure it's a closed community as quick as possible.
This isn't an open community it's a private gated one where everyone jumped the fence and is scared that the wrong person might have come in with them.
Condescending is not welcoming.
Upvoting cause they are your in group isn't community.
Berating outcasts cause you at least don't feel like them is still bullying.
Hahahahahahaha ohhhh.... Yeah like that does anything. I've seen mods joke about it just being the person they all gang up on as if it was the thing to do.
I've had some good interactions with mods, but that... Was 1 person actually. Same mod basically.
The mods are a lot of the same people and someone from "outside" telling them they are horrified just brands you as another target for them to ignore as you get silenced out. The big communities are absolutely the worst offenders.
I mean, it’s an active choice by the instance admins at that point. Hexbear and lemmygrad are both well known for being what they are, and db0 is about as well known as a community in general and is one of the generally recommended federation choices.
On a small instance, remote communities are only federated if a user subscribes to that community. It wasn't the case for that community on OP's instance. It's a technical issue, no instances politics at hand here