You can be generous with your time and empathy and people will tend to remember it more than money. It's easy to be generous with money when you have it. It's not as common to be generous with kindness.
I don't know your work situation to know if you have time to spare (when others are available) but I hope you have time to at least enjoy your own life. Also, not getting married due to red flags is a good reason to not get married. It sucks to not find your a person for yourself but it's honestly better than dreading going home.
I work 830-9 pm every weekday and generally 10-4 every weekend. I do my best but I really don't have much time to be generous either. Thanks for your kind words though. I ended up sick this week when it's my vacation week so I feel even shittier than usual.
That sounds awful. All of it. I hope your work hours are reduced to reasonable at some point soon, and I hope you don't need to worry about money when that time comes.