Ohhhh you're one of those guys. Have you ever considered that people, especially those who have made it into their mid-30s, especially women, make choices that have nothing to do with putting on a show for anyone else?
It'll change your world if you realise that once you're a certain age (the younger the better) you don't actually care whether people think you're 'cool' - an ever-changing something that's only meaningful to people in highschool.