Assertive dom. When they make me feel I really don't have any other options than to submit.
I'm a switch and brat and subbing doesn't always come naturally for me. In the beginning of a scene I have a tendency to start 'topping from the bottom', even if I consciously try to avoid it, and the dom can't let that happen. Once I manage to let go, I do absolutely enjoy it and can enter a deep subspace, but I can't do it without the dom really pushing and "breaking" me first. It's kinda hard to explain and I don't even fully understand it myself but at least I know some other top-leaning switches I've talked to have had similar experiences.
Certainly requires a combination of many things I have going for myself. Looks to get your attention, allure to get you close, strength to position you how I want, intelligence to know which buttons to push, confidence to know I will make you do whatever I want, and experience from breaking so many different types of men and women.
Because they become the best at obeying. Guess it’s like as a dom they love the power and control over a weaker person like how a planet has control over its moon but with me, I’m like a super massive blackhole in terms of power over other people. My gravity captures everything that gets close to me and that power to someone as simple as a planet is awe inspiring and impossible to ignore.
@MuscularGoddess that's very insightful on two counts. First a dominant knows what it is to serve and knows the expectations they set, and therefore the expectations that others will require of them. I think that makes them attentive and obedient potential subs. Second, of course you have a gravitational pull and could exercise charm, force, or the provision of pleasure or it's denial to ensure that your former Dom becomes an eager little pup for you
One thing to keep in mind is that there is a large population of "Doms" that have not taken the time to examine that their tendencies are a manifestation of implanted societal gender roles. When the script is flipped and you're handily placed in a subs position, where you were always told it is wrong and perverse to be, it can be quite alluring to be disillusioned.
@Biapathy totally agree with you, although personally I do not confirm or believe in any societal norms with regard to gender. There is though an allure in having my usual sexual preferences flipped, and a power in choosing to give up the power that you would ordinarily expect to be free to exercise as an adult human