Anyone can create their own instance at any time if they want.
Or most instances allow the creation of a community, subject to the instance rules.
People can say whatever they like inside of their own homes, it's when they go into other people's homes that they need to play by the rules of the homeowner, or else gtfo.
I haven't clicked any links here or looked at the modlog, I was just responding to your comment in the general sense.
Judging from all of your comments here, I'd highly suggest that if you keep smelling shit everywhere you go, maybe you should check your shoes.
I seriously can't fathom coming into a place, badmouthing everyone already there, and then being surprised when they react negatively.
Also, if you want a place without moderators overseeing everything with a fine toothed comb, there are countless *chan sites with minimal moderation (only removal of heinously illegal content). You might seriously have a better experience on one of them if you find lemmy stifling. There's even a number of them now that allow users to make their own boards for whatever niche topic they want.