It's everyone's language, everyone can bully each other over it. The Brits added u to a bunch of words just to fuck with us..and then misspelled tire. Just last week heard an upper class indian with more British roots give a more Americanized indian man shit for spelling it tire rather than tyre, with zero knowledge of the history.
On the whole I think English speakers are relatively polite about misunderstood words in person, even relatively racist asshats. But when you can't read the accent, you default to your own culture and in that culture it's pronounced to rhyme with tamales.
No, it's not, go learn history. Its a mix and match on both sides usually because spelling wasn't standard anyway. Webster picked ones he liked, mostly to feel superior to Brits, Brits picked the opposite to feel superior to americans. We have the legacy accent, uk has the posh accent to sound different. We did simplify some words, Brits complexified others to be more posh.
The british spelling comes from the conquest of the duke of normandy and was already being standardized before your independence.
This is again such a us-centric way of thinking.
"We are so important the british chnged their entire language just to spite us"
I really don't want to be rude when I say this, but I can't find any better qords: please get out of your bubble. This US-centrism really annoys others.
And don't tell people to "go learn history". It's just bloody rude, even if you would have been right.