An admin of this instance, Nutomic, is a transphobe and has no right to be able to ban trans people from this community.
I'm calling for https://lemmy.ml/u/[email protected], the most prolific user of the transgender comm here on lemmy.ml, to be immediately unbanned and nutomic to be removed as admin. It is good and correct to leak the DMs of transphobes.
Yeah well you're not in control of that guy's servers. He can do what he wants. Why stay? Staying defeats the point of the fediverse. Why give him the time of day?
As a non-trans (IE, not having direct personal stakes as others would) ... two salient issues here for me are:
Ensuring consistency between admin actions and instance rules and culture
Creating a culture of and expectations around reasonably holding admins/mods to account for their conduct. Overzealous and personal admin/mod actions are a cancer for group-based social media platforms like this. Simply moving is one possible course of action, but a damaging one. Creating feedback loops between users and mods, IMO, is a better way to go, and so trying for that here is worthwhile.
I'm not saying it doesn't suck. I'm saying you can't police this guy's server. He does that. You literally physically cannot. Moving away isn't damaging to you. It's damaging to him. These instances live off the community just like Reddit.
Moving away isn’t damaging to you. It’s damaging to him.
Moving can always damage a community. And as I said in my dot points, I think there are real grounds for calling this out as inconsistent with stated rules. The fediverse is about grassroots organisation, not just decentralisation ... just walking away is arguably too passive, especially when there are grounds to discuss what's going on.
I mean, ultimately, yea. He's not the only admin (and the second most senior AFAICT), and creating a relationship between users and admins/mods is a worthwhile activity. Just walking away whenever mods do something excessive (which is a thing, they're human, it's always going to happen) is too passive and destructive.
Part of my position here is informed by my being a mod of my own community. Before I started it I made sure I was willing to walk away and accept criticism from the members of the community (and posted to this effect too). It's something that is important I think.