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This is no longer a safe space
  • Can't you see you're making bold assumptions about what other people mean now that you feel like they're on the opposite "side"?

    When did this user say they're abstaining? Why did you infer that?

  • This is no longer a safe space
  • There's a lot of hating on Biden for the things he's done, but, as a member of the community, I don't often see the sentiment that we shouldn't vote for him. And that's mostly in comments anyway. If I had to guess, the general view is "I'm going to vote for Biden and hate doing it".

  • A moderator of a community on Blahaj misgendered Me and I can't report it.
  • Hey, let's give OP the benefit of the doubt. We cannot pretend to know what They feel, so let's just assume these pronouns really make Them happy in the same way as she/they for me. Because there's other aspects to take issue with...

    It's the implied power dynamic and special grammar rules I don't like. Capitalizing pronouns, especially since OP says They're a goddess, feel is like lifting Them up above me, which I don't feel is fair to me or anyone else. Then I also need to give Them special grammar rules, like they/them, my default gender-neutral pronouns, no longer being neutral? It feels like capitalization should be orthogonal to pronoun choice, but now everyone needs to relearn grammar. Most neopronouns are just learning a new word, not upending grammar. I've even noticed it changing how I'm reading replies in these threads, because the capitalized pronouns catch my eye like they're the start of a sentence or a name I should take note of, they tricked me! I guess the only nice thing for me is it seems to more easily differentiate when a pronoun is referring to inanimate objects or a capital pronouns user.

    Assuming OP is genuine (as you probably should), I think the main issue is the undue burden of everyone having to lower ourselves under our capitalized goddess. Should we be required to use a signal that implies You're above us? When I switch to she, "she" doesn't change the power dynamic between me and someone else, but if I said my pronoun is "master", I think people would rightfully refuse. It doesn't matter if OP sees this as a power thing, because most other people will and so forcing them to use it will bring up that feeling. Yes OP, I don't want to make a trans person suicidal, but I also don't want to make everyone around them feel lesser; and as You said, it doesn't matter what others think, it matters what the person feeling it feels.

    I did want to be respectful, and I think I got all the pronouns correct for OP, but it did make me uncomfortable for the reasons described above. In this thread I'll try to capitalize pronouns as a show of respect, but I'd rather leave it in this thread to respect myself.

  • When did you feel comfy changing pronouns?
  • It took me like 6 months to tell my family new pronouns, and another few months to stand up and enforce it. I felt the same sort of not deserving of it until a few months on HRT (might be coincidence, as I'm also just overall happier and more confident).

  • What are the rules?
  • Exactly, which is why I'm confused why you started off saying you're straight. Clearly you said it for a reason, but it doesn't seem relevant to anything, so I don't know the reason. My best guess was that you meant it like "hey, I'm not trans either so I'm empathizing with you here" which is why I asked if you meant cis, because the opposite of trans is cis, not straight.

    To clarify, I'm not attacking, I'm just trying to figure out what you meant.

  • Antinatalism Rule
  • Death is far scarier than having never been born. I went through sooooo much torment thinking about death and if I should make today the day. I have PTSD from years of that. This is not a fair exit.

  • Don't make perfection the enemy of progress

    I've seen many people take absolutists stances and throw accusations or insults at others who don't. While I applaud that they recognized serious problems, I want everyone to understand why I might take actions that seem to ignore or even worsen those problems: I only have so much power and so many options, none of which are ideal, so I do the best I can with what I have. I might prioritize stopping one bad thing over stopping another; that's not me excusing the other bad thing, that's me playing the cards I have to get the least bad outcome.

    Personally, I base my moral decisions on expected outcomes. I would pull the lever in the trolley problem. I understand some people think me a monster for that, and I certainly wouldn't feel good pulling it, but I see it as me net saving people. I disagree with people that wouldn't pull it, but I see where they're coming from and I'm not mad at them (disappointed, maybe). Of course, as well as pulling the lever, there may be options to try helping the one person on the tracks, and we should definitely attempt such a rescue.

    This whole topic can be applied to the do-i-vote-for-biden thing that this community seems divided over, but it's much more broadly applicable too.

    Anyway, this is just me saying that I don't think the absolutist all-or-nothing approach some people take is a good idea, and I also don't like when some of them call me a bad person for not doing the same.


    Double bottom rule

    A diagram of a "bottom meson" (composed of an unknown quark "q" and an antibottom quark) with an arrow labeled ":3" pointing to a "double bottom Baryon" (composed of an unknown quark "q" and 2 bottom quarks).

    Image taken from figure 1 of this article


    Both rule

    Two (presumably) girls lying in bed holding hands and looking at each other. The one on the left, labeled "Me" has shoulder-length hair, an uncomfortable :| expression, and is wearing a black hoodie, grey jeans, and sneakers. The one on the right, labeled "Also me" has longer hair, a subtle smile, a blush, and is wearing a dress and high heels.

    Edited from this post, on which I commented "I wanna be both".


    Half Rule 2

    Half Life 2: Episode 1, Direct Intervention