If you were on the subreddit, almost all of these resources might be familiar to you, but it should be important to have a copy of them here too. This includes definitions, common questions, resources for term coining and flag creating, and other stuff. This is a long post but it is organized.

Note: This community is not that much associated with the Reddit one, just wanted to start it here, but if a moderator from there wants to moderator here that would totally be fine! Just getting the ball rolling here.

I would like to give credit to the original post on Reddit that is linked here.

The Point of This Sub

I noticed that there was no xenogender community on Lemmy that I could find so I hoped to build it. This is a community to chill, share art, ask questions, coin terms, and just chat. However, if you have disrespectful intentions or try to debate, we are not a debate sub, and will delete those.

Commonly Asked Questions About Terms/Labels

Xenogenders

This is clearly one that will be asked most, since it is the focus of the community. Basically xenogenders are metaphorical ways to describe gender.

When someone says they are catgender, they are not saying "I want to transition into a cat" or "I have a cat's brain" they are saying that their gender can be described and represented by cat-like characteristics or related to cats.

Isn’t that just having a personality/liking cats?

No! Xenogenders are used to describe gender not likes/personality.

Example:

I’ve meet people that describe their gender with chaotic, aggressive, bloody and angry xeno’s while their personality is kind, wholesome and f-ing rainbows and puppies

Non-Dysphoric Trans People

An Analogy: Imagine you have a yellow shirt, you don’t hate that yellow shirt, it doesn’t make you uncomfortable, it’s even kinda cute but you would rather be wearing a purple shirt you just think it would fit you better, you would like it more, why would there be a problem to change shirts if it would make you happier?

not all people that use xenogenders are non-dysphoric tho, this is just a subject worth mentioning, a majority of people in this sub are dysphoric but that doesn’t change the fact that non-dysphoric peeps are valid too

Autigender

Autigender is when a person perceives that their experience of gender is influenced by their autism. For example, if something about their gender is influenced by a special interest, a sensory experience, or a disconnect from neurotypical definitions of gender. Not usually used as someone's whole identity but a part of it, though some may use this as their only identifier. Not available for use by allistic non-autistic people.

Pin Point A Troll

Transracial, transpecies, transable are immediate ways to know.

Using neurogenders while not being neurodivergent,

Defining autigender as “I want to be autistic “ “ my gender is autistic or related to autistic people” (autigender defined up)

Slurs/offensive/insensitive/natural disasters/man made disasters/ tragedies/ and other stuff on that line as pronouns

Always be careful with new/not very used accounts, and you can always ask for someone’s else’s opinion as we mods are here to figure it out if you are not sure someone is trolling!

Positive Communities

I am not aware at this moment on Lemmy, this section will update later.

Coining terms / Resources🪙🪙

Make sure to search online to make sure that the term is not already coined, multiple coinings of the same term creates unnecessary fragmentation. If you find a similar term that isn’t exactly what you want you can still coin it to be as precise as you want it to be, just make sure they aren’t the exact same

Make sure to credit people when it is necessary, and don't forget that!

Naming

Check that there isn’t another xeno or term with that name already, name duplicates can be really troublesome and try to keep the names short/easy to remember

These resources below are from the original post, but some may be updated with archive.org links, if the website no longer exists.

Archive of Some MOGAI/Xenogender Suffixes

General prefixes and suffixes

Some more prefixes

Word roots, affixes + even more prefixes

Common roots words

And even more root words and prefixes ( Greek and Latin) this one has a lot, it’s huge

More suffixes ( english )

And yes even more root words, affixes, prefixes and suffixes

If you can't pick a name, you can make a post on this community and coin it with a "name suggestions welcome" or something similar

Creating Flags

Ibis paint x can be used, it is a drawing app.

Here's a basic linear flag maker. Personally, this is the one I use and one of the most simple ones.

Scrontch’s flag designer limited color pallets but many division and overlay types + some symbols

A flag maker that allows different types of division here

Another flag maker that has some templates (country templates) layering + some shapes\images you could add (this one was clearly made to design country flags tho so keep that in mid)

Some people use photopea

Some flag templates here

Some more templates with some logos

even more very useful resources

# flag templates on tumblr

And last but not least, more resources

Make sure to credit people! If possible, link to the resources you used (this helps others find them and credit)

Some lgbtq+ resources 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍⚧️

Some resources for the ones who may need them check out the links even if you don’t need them many of them accept donations and if you are in a position to help do it:

(Read the requirements for all the pages that offer free stuff before applying, the free binder ones are for people who cannot afford to purchase a binder or you cannot safely obtain a binder)

The Trevor Project

It Gets Better Project

Free Binder Program

Free Chest Binders

Binders (temporarily closing applications)

Transition Grants (Surgery applications are open every year October 1 to November 30)

Casa Frida (Mexico)

Phone Numbers

-Trevor Project Lifeline - 1-866-488-7386 (Available 24/7)

• Trevor Text 1-202-304-1200 text “Trevor” to that number, (Available Thursday and Friday 1-5 pm (California hours)
• California youth crisis line - 1-800-843-5200 (Available 24/7)
• Trans lifeline - 1-877-565-8860

Parts Left Off

• "non-binary lesbians/ other non-fully women lesbians" section
• "lesboys" section
• "m-spec lesbians/gays" section

Reason? - I personally have not delved into this topics, so I can not add parts that I don't fully understand as those three terms have multiple definitions, but those sections will be updated in the future when I fully understand those topics. I hope you understand!