Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can?
Why do people around me tend to increase their responsibility load (i.e. have children, become a manager, do charity, etc.) while I (30M) try to avoid it as much as I can?
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I dunno man. Would be too much hassle for me. I'm in my 30s and struggle not falling into depression every time I get friend zoned, which happens all the time. Dating sucks. I just want to be loved. Having children, being a manager (especially in my field / NGO where politics is a big part of the job) is just way too stressful.
I'm a greasy overweight diesel tech. Stop saying friend zone. That is an easy way to never get with someone. Get a hobby that you like and learn to talk about it without being a snob.
I won't. I have hobbies. I have hobbies I'm passionate about. If it doesn't click for other people but it does for me but they still don't have a problem with being friends what else should it be called other than friend zone?
Maybe I'm wrong but I think the idea of "friend zone" implies romantic rejection, whereas being actual friends is just a platonic relationship with no romantic aspects. Friend zone is like emotional attachment that is getting in the way of a genuine friendship because of that disparity. It sounds immature to say it if you think of it that way. It's reminiscent of the incels on 4chan for a lot of people too, so that doesn't help. Maybe that will clarify why some people think it's cringey to say 'friend zoned'?
That actually explains it quite good. Thanks!
What you described was not what I tried to say by using the term "friend zone".
Thanks for reading, I've seen this happen in different places now. Some communities use it like you intended, others use it as derogatory. Language be gettin harder by the day