I'm with you there. I liked Reddit because I'd write out a long post, and in doing so come to better understand my own position, and hopefully influence some future lurker. I knew most people saw a bunch of text and kept scrolling. Occasionally I'd get a thank you or gold, but very rarely would someone actually engage with me
People even went out of their way to tell me they didn't read it sometimes. One guy even said "I don't even know you, my girlfriend doesn't talk to me that much", which was hard to know how to respond to... So obviously it took another wall of text
My first day here, someone replied to my comment and ended with "sorry it got so long"... On the 15th I left Reddit and decided I'd never go back, but that's when I stopped feeling a sense of loss about it
I know exactly what you mean. I even find that lemmy has had a less argumentative comments section. It is partially that I have avoided the wild communities, but it is still alarmingly chill.
Sorry for having a conversation. I didn't realize we came here to TALK. /s
I haven't found a good "wall of text" community yet. I am doing AI/ML research and was hoping that would grow quickly on lemmy. The Reddit equivalents had lots of comments and content.