Could you help me with a bit of life advice? Ending uni, scared of going forward.
Could you help me with a bit of life advice? Ending uni, scared of going forward.
Hi,
I'm at that point in life where I'm facing big changes/having to take decisions for the first time and I'm scared.
I'll soon be starting an internship abroad with a good company and, silly to say, I'm getting cold feet. I'm scared of the move and about the future - at the possibility that I'll like it and want to go there, and leave the people here behind.
I'm also scared that my partner wouldn't want to come with me if that were the case. They say they aren't sure yet. I understand, but it still makes me feel anxious for the future. I would hate to be in the situation where I would have to choose between a good job and losing my partner. It's so silly writing this down.
I think I'm just rambling and could use someone older to give me some advice about the way their life went. I dont really have older role models around, I'm on my own with this one. I guess that's part of the problem. I'm full of internal conflict, on so many topics at once - from practical life direction to things like philosophical/ideological matters.
Thanks for reading this. Hope life is kind to you.
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It's perfectly natural to be scared of change but it is fruitless because change is going to happen whether you want it to or not. Even if you stay here, things are going to change. Remember that and use it to help you get past your fear of change.
You're also focusing on the negatives, what about the positives? What if this internship turns out to be the best thing you've ever done? What if it does lead you to wanting to stay there which then leads you to an amazing life that you love and makes you happy? Even if you stay here, you and your partner might not stay together and how would you feel if you gave up this opportunity and you guys break up 6 months down the road and you're full of regret for not taking the internship?
If I were you I would 100% take the internship abroad, that's an opportunity that the majority of people don't get. Take it!
I'll definitely be going, there's no going back on that, it would be incredibly silly of me not to. I think I'm just finding it hard to adjust to life changing around me again. I had a really rough time growing up and university did me a whole lot of good, I adapted really well, got good grades, was social, and I'm just afraid of taking myself out of my comfort zone by moving when this was pretty much the first and only time in my life that I've felt fine.
It's even more silly because I'm not even done with uni yet, I still have one more year to go in my master's. I'm just the kind of person that tries their hardest to plan their future, but right now I'm staring at a great unknown that I can't rationally manage and find it hard to just "go with the flow" - is it even wise for me to do that?
Eventually your friends will all end up going their own ways too, forging their life paths. Doesn't mean you won't see them again and you'll meet new people. It just takes a little more effort since you all won't be in the same place anymore.
Don't stunt your future because of fear. Flip that energy into excitement and look towards the what could be. You got this.